Isn't it highly ammusing then that so many of us don't bother to use ANY of these tools to really communicate with each other? We hold all this rubbish inside us until we feel as though we're going to burst and then - when we can't take it any more - we unleash all this toxic crap on the person nearest us. Or the person most willing to just take it.
Are you an unleasher? Are you a taker?
If you examine that type of situation, the whole *expletive deleted* unpleasant episode could have been avoided by just taking the time to talk to the people around you. Ever considered that a rational conversation could avoid a lot of unpleasantness later? Of course, talking isn't really enough... pay attention, this is the REALLY hard part....
You also have to be HONEST!!
I can imagine all the protesting going on... "of course I'm honest", blah blah bullshit. Being honest means that you have to allow that no matter how ugly it is, the other person's point of view could be right. So... let's say that that person has accused you of being a bigot, a slut, a control freak, a piece of shit, etc, etc - you have to be able to step back and really look for the seed of truth in what they have to say. Then you have to have the honest to God balls to admit it - to yourself and to them. Only then can you both really talk and move on.
The problem is that not all people are able to do this. We get so indignant, so pissed off at the accusation, that we aren't able to look beyond that anger. We can't see that maybe we've been behaving in a way (or saying things) that has lead to the accusation. Who knows, maybe that person does admit to themselves that there might be some truth to what's been said? It's sad how badly the human race communicates to begin with and then to add all the lies and crap in on top of it... is it any wonder we sometimes wonder if there's a point to the whole thing?
Anyway - do yourself a favour. PHONE a friend today, pop round to their house. Leave the sms's and emails for another time.
Until next time,
Me
2 comments:
I LOVE it
from *expletive deleted* to the word bullshit in, possibly, four lines - PRICELESS!
So I took your advice... AGAIN. I've gone and done it... I used communication to tell those sweet peeps in the berg to take their job and make a sexual departure. They love me --- NOT!
ha
Never has a more truer word been spoken. we dont talk anymore ( by Barbara Streisand ). Listen to the words & we can all learn..
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